Reggie256
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Help! Why do I do this to myself?!
Okay - will try and keep this as brief as possible as don't want to drone on too much
I have a dilema. As I've explained in a previous post, I split from my wife of 10 years about six months ago. It was admittedly my fault, as I had a one-night stand which was the nail in the coffin for a marriage that hadn't been working for quite some time, partly due to my depression, inital denial of my diagnosis, and her lack of support toward me.
At the time, until very recently, my (ex)wife made it very clear that there was
no going back and reconcilliation wasn't an option.
In the time following I met, and fell in love with, someone else - have been with her for about a month now. Unfortunately she lives over 200 miles away and I only really see her at weekends, when I don't have my children (and my ex refuses to allow me to introduce my children to her)
Anyway, despite everything I somehow found myself in bed with my ex-wife briefly over
the weekend. Heaven knows why - I can't really justify it to myself. I still care about her, but I know that what we did was wrong.
Now, on one hand I KNOW I should really tell my new girlfriend, on the other hand I
am terrified of loosing her, and VERY reluctant to put myself, and her, through what I went through following the split from my wife.
I know I am a total amoral coward, but what the heck do I do???
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1/Oct/07, 13:29
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Re: Help! Why do I do this to myself?!
Hi Reggie,
If I were in your position, I wouldn't tell your new girlfriend anything, it happened, it was a one off(???) forget it and just focus on your new relationship.
If you do end up having these encounters with you (ex)wife on a regular basis, then maybe there is something there worth working for.
KP xxx
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1/Oct/07, 21:00
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Re: Help! Why do I do this to myself?!
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kinkypixie wrote:
Hi Reggie,
If I were in your position, I wouldn't tell your new girlfriend anything, it happened, it was a one off(???) forget it and just focus on your new relationship.
If you do end up having these encounters with you (ex)wife on a regular basis, then maybe there is something there worth working for.
KP xxx
Thanks for the advice - if most DEFINITELY was a one-off - I really do love my new girlfriend.
I realise it's a poor excuse, but I took some diazepam before I went over to my ex's, as thought that she wanted another argument (as is usually the case)
Sadly, diazepam makes me a little too carefree, which was part of why I wound up doing what I did. I KNOW it's no excuse, but, at the time, the my conscience seemed totally "deactivated" 
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2/Oct/07, 8:24
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Well, I told her - looks like she's giving me a second chance, which I hardly deserve.
Still - feel like an idiot
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4/Oct/07, 10:55
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I think telling her was probably the right thing - it would be eating away at you otherwise. TRY not to do it again??!!!
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4/Oct/07, 12:14
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I think telling her was probably the right thing - it would be eating away at you otherwise. TRY not to do it again??!!!
x
Not a chance - love her too much to do anything so stupid a second time
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